未婚伴侶的穩定關係及其發展之探究

Abstract

本研究以詮釋現象學方法，探討未婚伴侶在親密關係中對穩定關係的知覺與詮釋，及其對關係的影響與穩定關係發展經驗之內涵。研究者採取半結構個別深度訪談法與六位受訪者進行訪談，並以其描述的親密關係經驗作為分析文本，形成個別置身經驗結構與普遍經驗結構。 研究結果發現，一段穩定關係的開展起始於人們投入關係前的「渴望與預備」。隨著逐漸認識至「相互理解的達成」，人們從中經驗到穩定關係的知覺，包括可預測且永續的「安適自在」，「愛的投入」以及對關係的認同。受訪者們也將穩定關係形容為「家」的意象，是一個內心安身立命的所在，亦是外在現實實在的歸所。研究者進一步探討穩定關係的知覺與詮釋對親密關係發展上的影響，歸納出「互助關照的催化」、「人生伴侶的認同」、「人際生活圈的共享」此三項重要主題，說明穩定知覺與詮釋的催化作用，有助於促進親密關係中的伴侶從個人、關係至環境相互擴展，直至形成一個擁有高度關係認同與共識的穩定單位。最後，穩定關係發展的經驗以「相互理解的投契」、「從差異轉化為互補的嵌合歷程」以及「互為主體的實踐」等發展歷程作示現。研究者綜合先前文獻與研究結果作進一步討論，並獲得「穩定關係的核心內涵：理解與悅納」、「互賴關係的建構」、「穩定關係發展的歷程：責任的覺察與行動」等發現，亦從個人、關係、社會環境等面向思索「穩定關係發展的挑戰」。

Using hermeneutic phenomenology as a methodology, this study aimed to shed light on the perception and interpretation of relationship stability by individuals and couples in nonmarital romantic relationships. Furthermore, how these senses of relationship stability influenced their relationships, and the experience of development of relationship stability were discussed.The researcher interviewed six participants using a semi-structured individual in-depth interview method, and used their descriptions of intimate relationship experiences as analytical texts to form their situated structures and a general structure.The result of this study suggested that the development of relationship stability begins with people's “desire and readiness” before entering relationships. As they get to know each other better and achieve “fulfillment of mutual understanding,” this also enables them to experience the perception of stability, including the predictable and sustainable “security and well-being”, “love engagement”, and relationship identity. Moreover, participants described relationship stability as the “existence and subsistence of home”, a dependable foundation for them to entrust their spirits to, and a concrete base to nestle themselves in. The researcher further explored the impact of the perception and interpretation of stable relationships on the development of intimate relationships, and concluded three important themes: facilitating reciprocity, identifying life partners, and communing interpersonal living spheres. These results indicated that the perceptions and interpretations of relationship stability have a positive role as catalysts to facilitate participants creating a stable unit with high level of relationship identity and consensus from the aspects of individual, dyadic and social environment. Lastly, the experience of developing relationship stability was demonstrated through the process of “achieving the rapport of mutual understanding”, “channeling differences into complementary acceptance”, and “establishing intersubjectivity”. The researcher integrated previous literature to elaborate on the results of this study, and obtained the findings of “the core value of a relationship stability: understanding and embracing differences”, “construction of interdependence”, and “process of developing relationship stability: Reflection and action of responsibility”. In addition, the researcher considered “challenges of developing relationship stability” from the perspectives of individual, relationships, and social environments.