成年男性親密關係議題之諮商經驗研究
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2012
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本研究為探討成年男性案主在接受心理諮商後對親密關係議題的諮商經驗以及親密關係諮商的改變經驗。本研究邀請五位成年男性在心理諮商後接受深度訪談，將深度訪談逐字稿資料以質性紮根研究法進行資料歸納分析，得到以下研究結論與建議：
一、成年男性對親密關係困擾議題與形成影響因素的經驗
成年男性案主的親密關係困擾議題包括親密關係中情感溝通表達困難的問題、男子氣概形象影響在親密關係中展現真實自我、男尊女卑的期待不同帶來的關係衝突、對女性的不瞭解與不信任、多重戀情帶來的兩難掙扎、經營長期親密關係遇到的挑戰問題。成年男性受訪者受到來自母親、父親、家庭溝通以及社會文化等因素影響而形成其親密關係困擾問題。
二、成年男性親密關係議題的諮商經驗
成年男性案主的正面諮商經驗為體驗到自己被他人瞭解與重視、瞭解在親密關係中的自己、主動表達感受、誠實面對自己在親密關係中不一致。對於負面諮商經驗的觀點為諮商師強迫案主接受想法和做法、沒有得到諮商師的瞭解與重視、諮商師無法維持專業中立的信任關係。
三、成年男性親密關係議題的諮商改變經驗
成年男性親密關係諮商的改變核心經驗為找到自我生命存在的價值、嘗試表達內心真實感受、在親密關係中主動直接表達、在親密關係中誠實面對自己、親密關係中生氣情緒的自我掌控。
根據本研究結果建議諮商實務工作者需要理解男子氣概對男性造成的影響以及需要自我覺察態度與價值觀。
This study investigates that adult men have of their counseling experiences regarding intimate relationships and personal and relationship change experiences after completing psychological counseling. We conducted in-depth interviews with five adult men, and performed a summary and analysis of the interview transcripts using the qualitative grounded research method. Based on the study results, we provide the following conclusions: (1) The perspectives on experiences regarding difficulties in intimate relationships included the following: difficulties in intimate relationships related to emotional communication and expression, the effects of masculinity or the masculine image on demonstrating ones’ true self in intimate relationships, relationship conflicts resulting from differing expectations regarding ideas of male domination and female subordination, a lack of understanding and confidence toward women, dilemmas caused by extradyadic love affairs or involvements, and the challenges faced during long-term intimate relationships. The adult male interviewees were influenced by factors such as their parents, family communication, and social culture, which caused problems and difficulties in their intimate relationships. (2) The positive counseling experiences regarding intimate relationships included the following: being considered and valued by other people; understanding themselves in intimate relationships; taking the initiative to express their feelings; honestly admitting their inconsistencies within intimate relationships.The negative counseling experiences included the following: counselors forcing participants to accept certain perceptions and behaviors, not being understood and valued by counselors, and an inability on the part of counselors to maintain a professional and neutral trust relationship. (3) The following changes were experienced after intimate relationship counseling: the participants were able to identify the value in their existence, endeavored to express their innermost feelings, took the initiative to directly express their feelings in intimate relationships, were honest with themselves in intimate relationships, and had superior control of their angry emotions in intimate relationships.
This study investigates that adult men have of their counseling experiences regarding intimate relationships and personal and relationship change experiences after completing psychological counseling. We conducted in-depth interviews with five adult men, and performed a summary and analysis of the interview transcripts using the qualitative grounded research method. Based on the study results, we provide the following conclusions: (1) The perspectives on experiences regarding difficulties in intimate relationships included the following: difficulties in intimate relationships related to emotional communication and expression, the effects of masculinity or the masculine image on demonstrating ones’ true self in intimate relationships, relationship conflicts resulting from differing expectations regarding ideas of male domination and female subordination, a lack of understanding and confidence toward women, dilemmas caused by extradyadic love affairs or involvements, and the challenges faced during long-term intimate relationships. The adult male interviewees were influenced by factors such as their parents, family communication, and social culture, which caused problems and difficulties in their intimate relationships. (2) The positive counseling experiences regarding intimate relationships included the following: being considered and valued by other people; understanding themselves in intimate relationships; taking the initiative to express their feelings; honestly admitting their inconsistencies within intimate relationships.The negative counseling experiences included the following: counselors forcing participants to accept certain perceptions and behaviors, not being understood and valued by counselors, and an inability on the part of counselors to maintain a professional and neutral trust relationship. (3) The following changes were experienced after intimate relationship counseling: the participants were able to identify the value in their existence, endeavored to express their innermost feelings, took the initiative to directly express their feelings in intimate relationships, were honest with themselves in intimate relationships, and had superior control of their angry emotions in intimate relationships.
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男性諮商, 親密關係, 親密關係諮商, male counseling, intimate relationship, intimate relationship counseling